DRAW A LINE
You’re dating your friend’s ex now and you know both of them probably feel awkward about it but you can’t allow either one of them to overwhelm you or take advantage of your desire to keep peace or not make them feel bad. You will need to clarify that you expect to be shown respect. If they no longer get along, they will need to be respectable towards each other for your sake and not try to colour your new relationship with their history. If they are still friendly towards each, they need to so without making you feel insecure.
ONE OF THEM MAY NEED TO GO
Many times, a friend may be carefree about you dating their ex particularly when they believe that the relationship is not headed anywhere concrete. The ex may also try out dating you believing its just a casual thing. However, when it begins to become a serious thing with prospect of long-term commitment, a new reality may begin to unfold. Your friend may decide that they can no longer handle it; they may try to thwart your relationship or just stay away.
On the other hand it could be your partner telling you they can no longer tolerate an ex who hates them and happens to be your friend or giving ultimatums about you choosing one of them.
If this happens, you will need to make a choice because if you don’t you might lose both of them.
SOME EXES YOU JUST CAN’T DATE
If someone mistreated your friend, it’s probably wiser to stay away even for your own sake. If the ex is still the love of his or her life that they haven’t gotten over yet, try your very best to look elsewhere. And if this is a really close friend that means a lot to you, dating their ex should be something you can avoid unless of course you found your soul mate in the ex. Maybe you can work something out