6. So hold-off on social media.
With being discreet comes social media restrictions. Discretion doesn’t just come mean hidden from public. Keep your dates to yourself, too. Simply don’t advertise your relationship on social media just yet, especially if the divorce proceedings started. Unless you want to be portrayed as the home-wrecker.
7. You may feel judged by his kids.
If your boyfriend has kids, they’ll judge you too. Now how you relate with them will be tricky. Tread lightly in this department, because you consider both their well-being without overstepping any boundaries offending them and his ex-wife.
8. He may not have learned from his mistakes.
No matter how cliché it sounds, there is truth in “it takes two to tango.” The marriage may not have worked out because issues they both haven’t addressed or weren’t able to deal with.
Take a close look at your boyfriend and see just why his wife left him. Maybe he has shortcomings, such as a bad temper or he’s utterly heartless. Think about your current relationship too. Has he learned from the mistakes of his past marriage, or is he just reliving it all again?
9. What about your own future kids with him?
When dating a divorced guy, you also have to think not only of his kids *if he has any* but also the idea of future kids with him. Having kids of his own already, do you think he’s ready/wants more kids with you? What’s his take on this anyway? On your end, are you ready for a blended family? Some divorced guys with kids don’t want to have any more kids so you have to include this into the equation.
10. His place will remind him *and you* of his ex.
If you think he is pretty much set and stable in life, think again. If he still lives in his house where he used to live with his ex, then you’d have to be prepared. Showering where they may have showered together. Sleeping on the bed where they had sex. Cooking for your boyfriend in the kitchen where they might have had sex too.
11. He may be traumatized.
A horrible marriage can be scarring. Perhaps his ex-wife has an addiction or mental disease *well, some guys would say their ex-wives are crazy*, or the whole marriage has been disastrous. Either way, no one comes out of a marriage unscathed. If you happen to be dating a divorced guy with a bad experience in his earlier marriage, he may not consider marriage again, or approach it with plenty of hesitations.
Although it’s a tough one, consider what your partner is going through too. Maybe he’s having a difficult time adjusting to a new relationship after a failed marriage. Therefore, do your best to be level headed, kind, and considerate of what he may be going through.