Dating a Divorced Man
In our present day and age where divorce rates are on the high rate, it’s still curious why being divorced still catches flack. According to few people, divorce implies disaster, neglect, tragedy, failure, nastier money issues, nasty custody battles, and irreconcilable differences. Many even cringe at the idea of dating a divorced man. Even if it’s an amicable divorce. It seem like they’re damaged goods.
Anyways, if you really want to find Mr. Right, never count out divorced men just yet. In fact, many people find happy endings after a couple *or more* divorces. Consider dating a divorced man if you’re looking for someone eligible.
Below are the 11 things you should know when dating a divorced man
While dating a divorced man may be new and exciting to you, don’t let him swoop you off your feet just yet. Think about these things first and make sure you know what you are getting when dating a divorced man.
1. Timing is everything.
Before even thinking about dating a divorced man, first know where the divorce really stands. Is he going through the divorce process? How long has the process been going on?
Knowing where the divorce stands, and where he stands in the divorce, tells you just how committed he is in a potential relationship with you, and if you should be serious about the relationship.
2. He’s been there, done that.
He may not feel as excited about the whole idea of marriage, especially after coming off a rough one. So don’t date him waiting for a proposal. The thing is, he might be jaded about the whole thing after what he experienced. On the upside, everything in his life is pretty much figured out kids, house, finances, and all that.
3. Don’t dig for the details.
While you lend your support for whatever your boyfriend goes through, you don’t have to know every detail of the divorce and even his past relationship. While it’s natural to be curious, don’t be too pushy.
Whatever you want to know, wait until your man is comfortable enough to tell you about it. Besides, he’s trying to move on from the relationship. Stop reminding him of his ex by making him rehash the old times.
4. You may have to be discreet for a while.
So your boyfriend may be divorced, but that doesn’t mean he’s divorced completely from his old life. He’s still friends with those who are also friends with his ex. Entertain the idea that he may not be too thrilled to integrate you into his circle too soon. He probably expects you to be discreet about your relationship for a while.
5. You may even meet his ex.
If he shared responsibilities with his ex like children or pet, be prepared to cross paths with the ex sooner or later. While awkward, be polite and learn to set boundaries for yourself and for them as a divorced couple. One or both of them may still be bitter about their past marriage or the divorce. You might find yourself in the middle of it all. Just remember to be the bigger person and don’t make the situation worse for your guy.