Ladies! 6 Signs He’s Trying To Change You
Yes, its true that not every relationship is meant to be. But sometimes, what looks like love just doesn’t feel like it. Feeling undervalued or underappreciated in your current relationship right now, it may be a sign that he’s trying to change you. It’s not easy to recognize these signs because they are easily disguised as signs of affection or concern. The fact of the matter is, if your man is doing any of these seven things, he is trying to change you:
1. He doesn’t love you for who you are
Most of all, if any of these signs are telling you anything, it’s that he doesn’t love you for who you are. The very basis for him wanting to change you is because he doesn’t appreciate the person that you are. If he doesn’t love you for who you are, he doesn’t deserve you.
2. He makes decisions for you
Whenever you’re faced with a choice, he makes the decision for you. This is a big red flag to take seriously. This not only means he’s trying to change you for the choices and decisions you make, but he’s trying to control them. By letting him make your decisions, he takes control of your life and future. If you let this go on, you become completely dependent on him when you don’t need to be. Your choices and decisions you make are your own. Don’t let him take away your agency for the sake of change.
3. He doesn’t like your friends
If he outwardly expresses how he doesn’t like your friends and doesn’t like being around them, something is wrong. Ultimately, he doesn’t like it when you hang out with people other than him because he wants you to be his and his only. Your man should appreciate your friends and family and enjoy spending time with them just as much as you do. If he doesn’t, he is trying to change you and who your friends are.
4. He’s super passive aggressive
He’s clearly frustrated, and if he keeps saying things with a passive aggressive approach, there’s something wrong. By being consistently passive aggressive about the littlest of things, it’s a clear sign he doesn’t appreciate you. This behavior is a sign that he isn’t willing to communicate with you and he’s just hoping that maybe you’ll change on your own with a little nudge here and there. You don’t need to be nudged and you certainly don’t need to change.
5. He makes your relationship conditional
Constantly being faced with conditional statements about your relationship tears you down. Words like, “If you really love me” or “if you really want to be with me” should warn you that he isn’t getting what he wants from you. In other words, he’s trying to change you. If he isn’t satisfied in the relationship, he shouldn’t have to change you or ask you to do things for him in order to be happy. You won’t be happy either.
6. He doesn’t value your opinion
It doesn’t matter what you tell him, he just doesn’t listen. He doesn’t care for what you have to say and instead tells you his own opinion. If he isn’t considering anything you say and cares only about what he says and believes, he is only being selfish and controlling. His opinion clearly matters more than your own, which is very unhealthy in any relationship. There needs to be consistent two-way communication between a couple. The ability to understand and value each other’s opinions must also be present.
Never you let him try to change you and don’t you ever dare try to change for him too. It’s best to just end the relationship altogether. There is someone better out there who will love you just the way you are, who won’t expect you to change for him. truth is, you don’t really need to change for anyone ever.