Ladies, These 5 Habits Can Make You A Boring Partner
Sometimes, relationships get into trouble and may eventually break down not because there’s no love or mutual commitment but because everything has become boring. Everything has settled into a predictable pattern and the other person is doing the same things over and over again. This is why anyone who is serious about keeping a cherished relationship going must find ways to keep things interesting.
Apart from a couple’s mutual commitment to injecting life and fun into their relationship regularly, it is a really good idea for each partner something private up their sleeve. Re-inventing yourself in a relationship is a good way to keep the energy going and keep the attention of your lover or spouse. It really doesn’t have to be anything big.
Many times in a relationship, the ladies are usually the first to settle into the predictable mode. Once they find that person that is a perfect match, they stop trying to keep themselves interesting.
Keeping yourself interesting is quite different from keeping the relationship interesting even though it will also help to strengthen your relationship. It doesn’t have to be anything outlandish or playing silly games; it simply means remaining committed to unfolding or improving different parts of you.
Ladies, take note of these 5 ways you can become boring in a relationship:
No More Hobbies or Interests
Just because you’ve found love or you’ve found a soul-mate, it doesn’t mean that you should let go of your interest. Your partner is supposed to an important source of joy for you not your only source of happiness.
So keep your hobbies and if possible new ones because having other ways of engaging and pleasing yourself will make you more interesting to your partner. Seeing you engrossed with something other than him will spur him into exploring you more.
Don’t wait on your partner to participate; get out and do those things you love to do. You are more fun that way.
Same Old Look
It’s okay to have set fashion and style tastes but do you really have to look the same way all the time. Same clothes, same hairstyles make you look boring.
Check out ways in which you can re-invent your fashion tastes to bring a depth of your personality. This doesn’t have to do with pretending to be something you’re not; it’s already there, just bring it up.
No Work or Purpose
Having something to do makes you attractive whether you like to believe it or not. It doesn’t mean that you have to have some job that you go to; you could be a stay-at-home wife or mom and still find engagements that bring out your determination, your initiative and ability to get things done.
Have an outlet for intellect and capabilities also brings out the interesting and endlessly mysterious side of you whether it meeting a work deadline or keeping the home pristine.
Find your purpose and work at it; it keeps your interesting and makes you an attractive partner.
No Friends or Relationships
Being a woman who has no other vibrant relationships like with friends or other family members can become a burden on your love-life. Especially when you now expect your boyfriend or husband to supply you with all the company, fun or conversation you need.
Don’t ditch your friends because you got a man; having people you hang out with outside of him actually make you more interesting and attractive. This also give him room to hang out with people he likes without feeling.
When both of you get some laughter and fun from hanging out with other important people, it brings freshness to your relationship. It doesn’t make your love any less strong
No Personal Space and Time
When it comes to your relationship, having your own space and having time for yourself is really important. It doesn’t matter whether you’re married or if you are around your partner all the time; learn to take time to be alone. It doesn’t have to be for long periods of time but showing that you can keep your own company makes it clear that you’re not common.
A lot of people think that being in a relationship means that you need to do stuff together all the time or talk all the time. However, there will be times when you relationship actually needs you to withdraw your company and not offer conversation for a whiles.
This is not like being mean or anything; don’t withhold yourself as a means of control. Learn to ask for time alone; your partner will appreciate the time you spend with him more. Even if you don’t feel like it, discipline yourself to start doing this.
Always being available or always wanting to be with your man can make things boring. The truth is that he probably wants some me time so take yours too.