6 Ingredients to Spice up your Relationship

6 Ingredients to Spice up your Relationship

6 Ingredients to Spice up your Relationship

Seeing what the relationship of this our century is turning into, where we tolerate ourselves then call it love, guys cheating on their girlfriends vice visa.

Then i thought to myself that we need help and healing if am permitted to use that lol, for a change of perspective about what truly a relationship is and suppose to look like, which drives me to the question of: How many of us are truly really happy in our relationship today?

There have been numerous misconceptions about Nigerian relationships, from the men thinking all women are ‘nags’ and after ‘money’ to the women believing that all guys are cheats, liars with the list of others going on and on and on like that.

But the truth still remains that though some of this believes/thoughts or misconceptions are true but none of the listed is 100% true, this been because it all depends on who YOU are dealing with.

Below are key ingredients of a happy Nigerian relationship.

Expect down times

The average Nigerian mentality is to stay positive and not realistic in trying times.

Expect that there would be down times in your relationship and build skills that would help you manage these difficulties. This is not the same as being paranoid or negative, its similar to studying for an exam that has no fixed date yet.


Firstly there is nothing like a white lie, it is just a word coined to avoid hurting people’s feelings, but guess what… When the person finds out he/she is still hurt. Telling a white lie doesn’t save the day, it postpones the ‘truth‘ day.

When in a relationship you need to be 100% truthful even when it hurts, let your yes be ‘yes’ and your no be ‘no’


Remember love brings two people with different ideologies, background, interests, and maybe religion together; mark the word TOGETHER, it is no longer about ‘you’ alone or ‘me’ alone… it is about the both of you.

When a tough decision that involves the both of you arises, wear your grown up pants and meet each-other in the middle.

Pay 100% attention

If you are in a serious/long term relationship, you would probably understand the urge to be taken seriously.

People love to know that they are being heard and understood. When in a relationship every detail is important, every complaint is ‘double’ important, especially when your significant other is particular about it.

Note this there’s a thin line between being attentive and being obsessive, you need to know your partner well.

Never compare your relationship with another

Never ever do this! “Look at john, he got this for his sonia or look at chioma she cooks daily for her boyfriend” Those statements all shades of wrong. Comparisons in relationships have a way of making people feel less of themselves, incompetent and stupid; it leads to gradual withdrawal.

When your significant other is not doing what you want or making you happy talk about it instead of nagging them about it.


Communication a very vital and most important key to a healthy relationship. When issues arise between you and your partner, do not patch it, make excuses for it or sleep over it; instead ‘discuss it’. That you talk and have discussions with your significant other doesn’t mean you are communicating.

And no… Don’t focus only on what they are saying, but also on what they are not saying. Sometimes the nonverbal signs tell you more than the verbal signs.

Oya start  making a checklist from given list above to be sure you are doing this right. Plus don’t forget to share your thoughts in the comment section below.