Who said Divorce was easy!? Yes it’s never easy. But below are some encouraging things i have for you to remember.
You were working toward that “happily ever after,” only to have your dreams squashed. Maybe there was infidelity; maybe there was abuse. Whatever the reasons, divorce can feel like the end of the world.
But fumbling through the dark trying to reorganize your life, it’s important to remember that there is an upside, a silver lining, to this new dark cloud. Here are a few positive things to look forward to in your future.
1. Re-entering the dating pool
Most days, it will feel as though you’re walking through a den of wolves. Some days, you’ll seriously consider becoming a nun and a life of celibacy just to avoid navigating the rough waters of dating.
But in other days, it will be an exciting endeavor. You’ve ended a serious relationship, and you’ve probably discovered more about what you want and need from a future one — like knowing you need someone who understands your sense of humor, or someone who isn’t a workaholic, or someone who’s more of a realist to combat your idealism. You’ll have learned more about how to build a great relationship.
2. Discovering who really stands by you
You’ll be surprised by who is supportive and who is not. Some people will make it clear that they are fair-weather friends. There will be those who choose sides and those who just don’t know what to say to you anymore. But some people will display new and welcomed levels of empathy and compassion. People will find ways to help you that you didn’t know you needed. In the end, you’ll discover that your true support system consists of those still standing by you.
3. Following your own dreams and goals
What dreams did you put on hold to be a good spouse? Did you have to quit school? Did you have to move to a city you hate to further their career? Have you wanted to travel the world? Now’s your chance. You get to mark your own path from this point on.