Waiting skills…
We like to have our desires and needs met at the tap of our fingers but life doesn’t work like that. Sometimes we won’t have for things; we get them as soon as we ask for them or work for them but many times in our lives, we will have to do some waiting; wait for things, wait for people. And even though waiting is a constant feature in human lives, we still don’t like to wait.
Whenever we are in a situation where we have to wait, we often find our patience tested; for many of us, the waiting period(s) bring out a lot of unflattering tendencies that we and those around us may not even be aware of.
But if we want to enjoy life, maintain relationships and keep our peace, we must learn to wait with grace and patience.
Whether it’s waiting to see the results of all our hard work, to finally find that person we can spend the rest of our lives with, or whatever else life requires us to wait for, here are some tips to help us wait us better;
Examine yourself
This is a good way to reinforce your tenacity. Truthfully examine your expectations and desires; don’t shy away from any inconsistencies and negative possibilities. Sometimes you may realize that you are actually wasting your time and need to move on.
At other times, however, you are reassured that your dreams and expectations are valid and worth waiting for, even though no one else agrees or understands. This kind of conviction produces the strength to wait.
Be realistic
The ability to wait is sometimes frustrated by the starting point of unrealistic calculations and expectations. Imagine a pregnant woman, wanting to have her baby three months after expectations; this means that she either doesn’t know that pregnancy last about nine months or she’s just be silly.
But this really how people develop unrealistic expectations that make waiting such a trying experience; they either don’t get enough information about what they’re getting into or they want things to happen according to their time-table, when it really doesn’t work that way.
Acquire a realistic idea of how long you may have to wait by getting as much information.
Know that desperation is dangerous
It is always better to wait and get your desire(s) in the right way and at the right time. You have to understand that if you get desperate, you might do something that will jeopardize everything you have worked for or even put you in harm’s way.
Avoid Competition
One of the things that make waiting harder than it should be is competition. Whenever people are in secret and open competition with others, waiting for their time and turn becomes really difficult. Competition makes people impatient and this makes them do desperate and dangerous things.
Keep busy
In your waiting periods, don’t allow yourself to be consumed by what you’re waiting for. Find your other interests, get involved in others things that you would like you do. This will keep you busy and make your time of waiting easier.
The challenges and successes that you experience in your other ventures will help stay engaged and avoid worry,
Keep your vision and integrity
For everyone, waiting is never really fun but keep your vision in front of your reminds of why you are waiting and this makes it worth your while.
Maintaining your integrity gives you the strength to keep waiting because it helps you remember that you want to get you want the right way and not by cutting corners.
Keep Believing
You just have to keep faith in what you’re waiting for; many people have quit or walked away just on the threshold of realizing their dreams because they allowed their doubts and discouragement to get the better of them. Keep the faith.
Examine yourself
This is a good way to reinforce your tenacity. Truthfully examine your expectations and desires; don’t shy away from any inconsistencies and negative possibilities. Sometimes you may realize that you are actually wasting your time and need to move on.
At other times, however, you are reassured that your dreams and expectations are valid and worth waiting for, even though no one else agrees or understands. This kind of conviction produces the strength to wait.