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GUYS, 3 THINGS THAT ARE MORE IMPORTANT THAN A VALENTINE’S GIFT

GUYS, 3 THINGS THAT ARE MORE IMPORTANT THAN A VALENTINE’S GIFT

No one said success was easy on dating. Working long hours, managing a company, delegating responsibility, and keeping track of numbers and names is not only stressful, but also time consuming. Often, the more successful we become the less time we have to find “the one.” Men focus on work and excelling before settling down. Women are also following suit, deciding to climb the corporate ladder rather than tying the knot. Where Latinas were once amas de casas they are now building enterprises. Both men and women are placing their career success ahead of love. So, if time is limited, how can successful Latinos find a soulmate? By following these steps, you may just find “the one.” Your Work Wife/Husband Dating a coworker may be taboo, but it happens often. Over 10 years ago, Lourdes Estevez, 40, a tenured Math teacher from New York City, met her husband, Ray Milian, 43, at work. “There were some ooh’s and ah’s,” said Lourdes of the experience. Despite the controversy (and two kids and a house in NJ later) the happily married couple would do it again in a mathematical second. Networking Events When successful, we attend networking events to represent our company or mingle with prospective clients. It is almost a requirement, so why not have fun with it and be open to finding a soulmate? You’re already there. Use your multitasking skills to connect with a new client and a potential date. Conferences Adam Calderon and Hilda Toribio met via LATISM (Latinos in Tech Innovation and Social Media), a not-for-profit organization that tackles issues affecting Latinos through the use of social media. Busy schedules and all, they attended a LATISM conference, became friends and fell in love. This can happen to you as well. You just have to attend, mingle, and be open! Remember that love is everywhere, even if you’re busy. Online Dating If you don’t want to mix business with pleasure, online dating may be the perfect fit for your packed schedule. I met Boo on Plenty of Fish while Tanya Thomas, a busy Panamanian Staffing Supervisor from Pennsylvania, met her husband on Match.com. They even had a long distance relationship to start! READ ALSO 4 Reasons Why You Should Always Drink Lemon Water If Match isn’t your cup of tea, there are other dating sites that have successfully paired entrepreneurs, CEO’s, and creatives. Try POF or OK Cupid (both are free sites) or Zoosk, Bumble or How About We (you pay a monthly membership fee). Matchmaker, Matchmaker, Find Me A Date Let’s say online dating isn’t for you. Thankfully, there are other options! You have the funds and little time, so why not hire a matchmaker? Take note – a successful matchmaker will cost you a pretty penny. But it saves you time. When you hire a matchmaker, they do the heavy lifting. They select who is right for you. All you have to do is show up. Stop the Excuses Being “busy” or “consumed with work” is an excuse to remain single. Love isn’t going to knock on your door! And even if it did (perhaps a co-worker needs more than a fact sheet?), you must find the time and energy to build a relationship and create a foundation. Finding a soulmate takes a lot of trial and error. You have to stop making excuses and just go for it. Meeting your soulmate is only half the battle as relationships are work. To strengthen a connection and create a life with a partner requires as much time as that brief on your desk, as much dedication as getting that promotion, and as much commitment as signing on that dotted line to become partner at your firm. Finding your soulmate is truly up to you. Get on it and build your romantic enterprise.

It’s a fact; women love to be showered with the gifts from the men they love. But this becomes a problem when that special man begins to behave as if diamond earrings or box of chocolate is all that a woman should get.

Valentine’s Day is around the corner and a lot of the guys have given up time and money to get something that can express to their wives and girlfriends how much they care. However, some of them may be disappointed with the unenthusiastic feedback they might get.

Before that happens, let us help you with some vital information; three things that are more important the gift and may make the difference between a delightful and disastrous Valentine’s Day:

Thoughtfulness

You could buy an expensive and exquisite gift for your lady but if not a thoughtful one, you might not hit any good notes with her. The gifts you buy for the woman in your life tell a lot whether you pay attention to her or not; whether you actually listen to all that she says or not. This is important.

If you haven’t been paying attention, it might be a good idea to get the help of someone who knows her well enough to give you an idea of what will melt her heart.

Attention

A gift is only one way to show affection or appreciation and when it comes to a woman, it’s hardly ever enough all by itself. Don’t buy your wife or girlfriend and believe that you don’t have to do anything else. She needs you to show her that she’s always on your mind and that you enjoy her being in your life. Pay her attention, plan a date or an activity and if you can be around to celebrate Valentine’s Day with her, call to let her know that you miss her and that you wish you could be with her. Don’t just send a gift and think that’s the end of it.

“I Love You”

Buying gifts every day of the week is no substitute for telling that lady that you love her. This Valentine, make sure you back up your gifts with expressions of how much you love her. Even if you couldn’t get her anything or couldn’t afford one, don’t neglect to tell you love her. That is a kind of gift.

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